The Nature of Problems and How to Address Them

 So when a problem or event if you will, arises, it must be interpreted by the
perceiver as a challenge to ones existence or an immediate affect in ones condition.
The nature of an event is first birth or first sight of the situation. Then the natural course of an event or problem is dissemination, meaning the progression of an unchecked situation or problem is to fill in or to spread into an existing environment. Then lastly is integration or how the event or problem settles into a an existing environment.
I'm using the term "Event" synonymously with the word "Problem" on purpose to illustrate that without the emotional attachment to the word or phrase "Problem" it is or regarded as a sterile event also to reduce the emotional impact to better facilitate an adequate response.
How a problem is handled should be largely contemplated on the end result or effect on an existing environment where the integration is beneficial to the stability of the environment.
A stable environment is necessary for evolution of a progressive effect and "Without conflict you cannot have evolution." The resolution is a methodical intellectual dissection bending forces or controlling chaos to a suitable resting point. It is fact that change is a already present and happening, always. This seemingly new event or problem evolved to its current state. The good news is that as all events have to obey rules of existence or preexistence. They do not manifest out of a nothingness or retreat to it either. Even chaos has rules. Therefor the nature of the event or problem is already restricted in the amount integration or damage is can ensue over time. Thus a speedy intellectual response affects the rate of distributing integration.  
An example would be a powerful river uprising. Do you try to resist it aggressively, bluntly, meeting the powerful forces head to head attempting to wield the nature of the event to a favorable outcome or is containing the flow at strategic points allowing the flow to continue but redirection to a satisfactory placement of disbursement or integration? Is one more favorable to the stability of the environment?
The term Environment is synonymous with the term Existence, you are the one who contemplates the vastness of it. Existence is always personal and you will always be apart of it eternally,  just as each and every other existing entity is apart of vastness of ones Environment or Existence.  So a long term resolution of a conflict will have resulted in the harmonious integration of the environment and fellow entities abound,   embracing the flexibility of further change or conflict. 

Difficult Women

     Difficult women tend to gravitate into two fields characteristically, Bi-polarism or Deception. Though no woman is tethered to one field exclusively, primarily she will dwell characteristically in one rather than the other. At times the blend of the two fields will present itself, but characteristically the true dis-functional nature of the troubled female will revert to its dominant field. 
Bipolarism is attachment. The dramatic emotional swing in mood to convey ones conceptual engagement to an issue or object. The reckless unbridled temperament is a demonstration of ones will but through an unassured outcome, thus the more extreme swing the more desperate the attempt to connect. The more apparent subdued end of the swing is the sub energized will in toil. 
Deception is a subconscious attempt to escape or distance ones self from issues or objects, crafted into a tale to deceive, to inspire the illusion of attachment. When the illusionary attachment is severed the lie is no longer motivated.